Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Got any change on ya?
So the new blog address is, drumroll please...albritton5.wordpress.com.
Change it on your bookmarks, (this pretty much applies to just my parents, the rest of you that just read this when you're bored at work...)
Keep the expectations low for a few days...I've got stuff to do every day this week, so I'm not home much. My house is getting messier and messier, and there's just nothing I can do about it right now. So when I'm home, blogging probably won't be a priority.
This blog will still be here. I need to find out how to save it permanently so I'll always have the thoughts and pics and stuff. But after today, all new information will be on the new blog.
So thanks Blogger, for the memories. I've just figured you out, and now I'm movin' on. Sounds like relationships I had...many moons ago.
Adios, amigos
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
We're a little mildewy...
the headband rocks.
This is after a fun trip to Fresh Market with my mom. Molly could get whatever treat she wanted, and of course, there was no other option for her but the solid pink lollipop. She said, "I'm the sthickiesth guhl you evah did see!"
Paiz looks like she's trying to make a point. I think she looks kind of like Beth Moore teaching the Word. The leaning forward stance, the hands up...preach it sistah!I don't know what's up here, I just think it's cute. When you tell her to Praise the Lord, this is what you get. She's making her owl sound here. Hoo! Hoo!
And here she's reading her book. I read Where's Baby's Belly Button about 27 times today. This book I think is about Belle, and Paiz loses interest by page 2, but she looks so cute sitting there with it.
I took pictures of Aidan too, but he never stopped talking long enough to smile or anything. So all the pictures look really strange. He read a whole book to Molly the other night. I can't believe he's reading so well now. I'm so proud of him. Molly figured out how to add every number under 10. She calls it "making math" and she can figure out adding single digits very quickly. We worked on subtraction (taking away) last night, and I think she understands that too. Paiz won't say a word. She understands them, she follows instructions so well. But she refuses to talk. It's probably not a bad thing, she'd never get a word in with the rest of us!
So now you've had your Albritton kid fix for the week. I'm proud of them. I'm thankful that they're mine. I had a really rough day today outside of being a mommy, so I'm thankful that they danced and smiled for me this afternoon. It brought a little sunshine in my life, and we could use some of that!!
Monday, September 1, 2008
Tammy Faye Would Be Proud!
Last night we worked on the bathroom. We have NO counter in our bathroom, due to a cute, but impractical pedestal sink. So we made due with a practical, but not cute, drawer thingy. Michael decided drawer thingy had to go (yay!), so we cleaned it out, toiletry by toiletry. We replaced it with kinda-cute cabinet thingy, which needs to be painted, but still works nonetheless.
While going through years of half used beauty products, I learned so much about myself. You know me, I simply adore a chance for personal growth.
I learned:
1. I never finish a bottle of lotion. We threw away maybe 10 bottles of lotion, 3/4 full. I have no idea why I do this. So far, the only skin softening relationship that has lasted till the end has been with Aveeno. Ahhhh, Aveeno.
2. I have really cool taste in nail polish colors. Which is funny, because I NEVER get my nails done. And I don't switch colors often. I wear one until it looks like a truck ran over my foot. But when I switch, I've got a vast color selection that is quite fabulous.
3. I've kept (and shouldn't have) every little zip pouch from every Clinique bonus for the last 10 years. This is not something I'm proud of.
4. I threw out maybe 50 lipsticks. Most of them were a neutral shade from the aforementioned Clinique bonuses. I had tons of little pale green tubes. There were some Estee Lauder and Lancome mixed in, along with some crazy Avon glossy things. I've seen a chart somewhere that tells how long you're supposed to keep makeup. I'm thinking every tube was past its prime. I'm scared of what would happen to my lips should I try one of them again.
5. I found a fake hairpiece. It has blond streaks and little braids. I think I got it as a gag gift. I'm so wearing that thing. When am I singing in church again??
6. I have a rainbow of eyeliners. And I've worn every one of them. I found 3, yes 3!, purple Almay liners.
7. We have enough ibuprofen to sink a ship.
8. What on earth will I use a tube of Lansinoh lanolin for, now that I'm not breastfeeding anymore? We tried to think of what I could use it for, and came up with nothing. Suggestions, please!
9. I have hair barrettes and clippy things from HIGH SCHOOL. They've hung in there through MC, through 6 moves, and 3 kids. And it's the weirdest thing, I never wear barrettes. Trashed.
10. And finally, in my time of self awareness, I realized: I CAN NEVER GO TO WALGREENS AGAIN. I need to be in a support group for beauty product addiction.
So now I've scaled down. I'm free from the burden of expiration dates and smelly lotions. It was a sweet release.
This winter, if my skin starts looking dry, remind me...STICK WITH AVEENO.
Friday, August 29, 2008
Home again, Home again...jiggety jig
But I just had to let you know he made it. Since I know you really care and all.
I just asked him what he would like to say to the world via my blog, and he said, "I don't know...you can save 20% or more with Geico."
Astounding wit.
"I'm glad to be home, otherwise it would be 8:00 in Portland right now and I'd be waiting for a plane".
Gosh, he's killing me with the snazzy anecdotes.
I'm thinking we'll just have to have a Michael quoting session another day. I'm trying to convince him to do a vlog with me. A video post. I think it would be hilarious. Now, my blog friends...I said it first, so don't go do one tomorrow and beat me to the punch. It takes a while to convince Michael to do anything. It might be months before he gives in. Or never. I'm not that convincing.
No labor day plans right now. Not prepared for a hurricane. Can you tell I'm living for the moment?
Sunday I have a scary thing to do. Major nerves. I'd better wear black pants.
Paisley has picked up some crazy dance moves. She was holding a chair, standing on one foot shaking her head. It was awesome.
Michael is starting to fall asleep. He jerks when he is dozing off. Oh, how I missed him, taking up most of the bed.
Maybe Aidan will do a vlog with me. That kid won't take a still shot, but he loves some vid. Maybe it's the sound of his voice. He's quite taken with it. I should know, he never stops talking. Ever. I'm glad he says funny stuff.
Maybe tomorrow we'll go buy bottled water. In case the lights go out next week.
Thursday, August 28, 2008
No laughing matter
Not that I'm a naturally funny person, I'm not. But I can usually be sarcastic enough that I get a few chuckles.
So I'm going to wait and post again when I feel funny.
Rather than funny, I feel tired. I haven't slept much in several days. Maybe if I rest, the funny will come back.
blah.
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Playdate for Paisley!
Michael is gone to Oregon again, and this morning, I had scheduled some volunteer time at the church. The sweet lady that usually keeps her when I do that was busy, so I was in a bind. Yesterday at Bible Study, a sweet friend that I'm just getting to know said she'd be glad to keep her. We both have girls the same age! They are a few weeks apart, and just had a wonderful time.
I'm not good at asking for help, but when I do, I'm always so glad I did!
I L-O-V-E this picture. Lilah's mom did a great job on this one.
Oh, and Lilah wore a paisley romper in honor of her new friend! Sweet girl.
So this morning was fun for her, and I had a great time too! The kids are loving school. Aidan had an "all about me" poster due today. We made a huge picture collage of, well, him. His teacher liked it a lot.
This is a long trip for Michael. Monday through possibly Friday, and he may not even get back to Jackson until Saturday morning. We've been so busy, it hasn't been bad at all this time. School makes a big difference. Last night we spent time at my parents' house, getting to know the new Recreation minister's wife and girls.
I've been learning and growing constantly. I've also been challenged so much in the last 2 weeks. Without giving details, I was asked to do something I really didn't think I could do. But I'm learning that we are always better than we think we are. God has given us more potential then we will ever even realize here on earth, simply by making us in his image.
I've also learned that when someone thinks I can do something, and voices that to me, that gives me so much encouragement to try! By the encouragement I've received, I'm learning that I must be an encourager too, so that maybe someone else will find the strength to try something they think they couldn't do. Again, my motto is quickly becoming: "We are not blessed so that we can live in our blessedness. We are blessed so that we can be a blessing to others." That can also mean encouraging, loving, accepting, forgiving, just replace "bless" with one of those words and it can apply to so many things.
I've got tons to do around the house. We haven't been here much, so work is building up around me! I really need to go in my room and do some work in there, but since Michael's been gone, there has been a sleeping child in my room anytime we've been home! Maybe tonight I can reclaim my space!
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Name that Tune
On the way home, we're crossing the Spillway, and I was flipping through the radio. I got to an oldies station and "Lean On Me" was playing. I start singing, "You just call on me brother, when you need a hand...."
After a second or two, I thought I couldn't take anymore, so I changed the station, and Aidan said, "Mama! Go back to that song!" I did. Really, I had only played about 3 or 4 seconds of the song. Apparently he liked what he heard.
He told me, "That's the same guy that sings the song about 'No Sunshine When She's Gone'"!
He was right, but how on earth did he know that?
I asked him if he'd heard "Lean On Me" before and he said "No, but the man's voice is familiar, and I know he sings the sunshine song with all the I knows!"
You know that song..."I know, I know, I know, I know...." It's on during that scene in Notting Hill where Hugh Grant is walking through London and the seasons are changing. One of my favorite movie scenes ever. Aidan's never seen the movie (duh!) but he's heard the soundtrack in the car and he loves that song.
So my buddy can pick out voices within a few seconds. I'm thinking either a career in music, or the FBI.
I told him, "Dude, that's amazing!"
He replied, "Well, I AM very smart!"
And quite humble, I might add.
Saturday, August 23, 2008
33 Years
Anyway, this is at Paisley's baby dedication at Pinelake. I cut Paiz out of the picture, because it's not her anniversary. Another reason they have so few pictures together, is because they are always doing stuff with us. When we're all together, they are playing with the kids. They teach them, laugh with them, and are the greatest grandparents ever.
I hope they enjoy their day. I know they enjoy their life. They both work so hard, and understand what each other needs when they are so worn out. Today they're spending the day together, going to Williamsville and having fun together. They are best friends.
My daddy has told me all my life that if I turn out half as good as mama, then I'll be doing well. Mama has told me that if I married someone half as good as daddy then I'll be set for life. It is wonderful to know they love each other like that.
Happy Anniversary you guys. You deserve everything good in this life. The greatest part is that you will receive so much more in the next. Thanks for being who you are. I love you so much.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Happy Days are Here Again
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
The Important Things
The most important people to me are my family. Yes, we have "off" days, everybody does. But I would never write anything about them that wasn't positive. They are wonderful people that I would do anything for.
I would never write negatively about my family, or my friends on the blog. Personal relationships are personal.
My last post was just a chance to deal with the courtesy of answering questions. The fact that I was angry was just a set up for the main idea. I was working with what I had, which wasn't much!
Now...as long as we're all clear...I can go give my sweet baby her Spaghettios!
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
What was the question?
The response I received was callous, and wasn't really the answer to my question. It made me mad.
Now, I get over mads pretty quickly. I am always aware of what I might have done wrong, and I have no problem admitting when something is my fault. But this situation...I didn't do anything.
So I'm still mad.
It's not that I got an answer I didn't like. It's more that I don't understand the motive behind the answer. And the answer had nothing to do with my question.
This is a major peeve of mine. If I ask a question, I want the answer to THAT question. I saw this demonstrated on television the other night. Michael and I were watching Rick Warren of Saddleback Church interview the presidential candidates. I have had major issues with both of them, and really was glad to see them in that setting, being interviewed by a man I respect and trust, on issues I care deeply about.
The first major thing I noticed is that Obama didn't answer the questions as they were asked. He rephrased the question so he could answer in a way that was beneficial to him. When asked when does a baby receive rights, he never gave an answer. He changed it to, how can we prevent a high number of abortions? That was not the question.
This is not a post about politics. However, the example was there and I used it.
When I am asked a question, it's my responsibility to the asker to give an answer. If it's one they don't like, then we'll deal with that. I have to own up to my beliefs, and give it to people straight. Jesus had to give a lot of answers people didn't want to hear. But he never faltered, or turned the question around. "Let your yes be yes, and your no be no," he said.
I'm still mad. But I'm working through it. I may never understand here on earth why people think the way they do. But my job is not to understand, it's to forgive. So while I process forgiveness in my heart, pray for me.
Friday, August 15, 2008
When Bad Outfits happen to Good Kids!
Now you know what happens when I leave Michael to "make it work"!
Backward shorts and princess slippers.
There is no caption witty enough.
She actually looks happy to be wearing this. Of course, she's not wearing pants, but I've cropped out most of that part.
So here she is...my precious girl. There are other pictures, like the one in a helmet and kneepads in her panties, but I can't put that on the blog. I do have some sense of decorum. (But not much!)
My brother and I talked on the phone yesterday, which is always a highlight of my day. I talked to Sharon too, and picked her brain on behavior modification (she's a genius), but then JM wanted to tell me about this show on Style network. We don't have cable, so I had never seen it. It's called How Do I Look? and apparently it's somewhat like What Not To Wear.
So this lady was put on the show by a well-meaning, although very short-sighted friend. Apparently (and I haven't seen it, so I could be off here on the facts) the lady was a cancer survivor. After a close brush with the end of her life, she decided she no longer would try to impress people and care what they thought. She began to wear what she wanted, without heeding any fashion trends or advice. She was fully making the most out of the time God has given her on this earth and really didn't give a flip about what people thought.
But the other lady, and I hesitate to call her a friend, just insisted that she needed to look better, and put her on the show.
Since I didn't see the show, I can't write about what happened, but my brother was appalled and while he was relaying the story to me, I was pretty disgusted myself.
Just this week, we heard the story from Beijing about the little girl who sang the solo during the Opening Ceremony, but the girl we actually saw was lip-synching to another girl's voice. The singer was not deemed "perfect" enough, so she had to stand behind a screen while the rosy-cheeked doll faced child got to move her mouth on television.
Both of these stories hit a nerve with me. At 31 years old, I still find myself struggling with appearance issues. I wonder if it will ever stop, or if that's just part of being a girl. I don't know. But before I leave the house I do a pretty critical inspection of myself and as long as I'm not embarrassing my family, then I'll go on with my life. But I've been through glasses, braces, Accutane, the freshman 20, funky arms and legs, post-baby weight, and just plain bad fashion sense and have still managed to have a great life, due to the fact that nobody that really loves me insists that I be perfect.
There are days when I look and feel like a "before" picture. On those days, I put on a crown with my girls and we sing "Bibbity-bobbity-boo" and turn ourselves into royalty. I tell Molly that God sees her like that all the time. I laugh at these pictures because my girl has so much confidence that God sees her as a princess, she really doesn't give a rip how others see her.
Sometimes what we teach our kids are lessons we need to learn ourselves.
Thursday, August 14, 2008
Fast post, but not as phast as Phelps...
I'm okay with pretaping...they could show us tomorrow night at 7.
Molly will just have to settle for YouTube. Which is what we did all afternoon, watching Hannah Montana videos.
"Everybody makes mistakes, everybody has those days"...
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
The Peanut Gallery
I can't watch another interview with Bela Karyoli (is that how you spell it?) He is like a cartoon. Great, great man, but just a little too much.
Did anyone hear the announcer talk about the Chinese girl that entered gymnastic camp at age 3, saw her parents maybe once a year, then called and said she wanted to come home and they wouldn't let her. It was too important to the family. Maybe that's why the girls never smile. Either that, or those hair clips are pulled just a bit tight.
These gymnasts have some painful looking hairdos.
I like Shawn Johnson. If my body were that small, I could flip it around like that, too.
Michael Phelps almost flashed us again. Those suits are either really tight and restricting, or he just is proud of what 5 hours a day of swimming does to your body.
Speaking of appearances...swim caps look good on nobody. And what's up with the goggle marks on Katie Hoff's eyebrows? I'm just saying what you all are thinking.
Marta is comforting Alicia Macaroni. I'm not being rude, I just can't remember her last name. That's got to be so hard, falling during a floor routine. Then having a camera in your face while you're waiting for a score you'll hate. Sacramone, that's her name.
Nastia is great, but her dad makes me nervous. He's quite the overbearing one.
Team USA is finished with the rotations.
No matter how many times they show commercials for the new Christian Slater show, I won't watch it.
I found out tonight that Michael has to go to work early and I have to drop the kids off. That's always my time to show the teachers just how awful I can look. It's quite impressive, really.
Oh, there's Bela. Again.
I just cannot believe the Chinese gymnasts are 16 years old. This girl is no more than 9.
Molly asked me tonight why they were still in China. I told her the whole Olympics would be in China, and then when she's 7, they'd be in London, England. She said, "Am I going to be in the gymastics in those Olympics, Mom?" I told her no, that you had to be 16. She told me she wished she could be 16 so she could do gymastics at the Olympics. I told her if she worked hard, she could do it. For her sake, I wish I could put a lot of faith behind those words, but I'm too much of a realist. Luckily, she turned her attention to the synchronized diving and became instantly enamored of the purple bathing suits worn by Mexico. She said that she had to have one. I will buy the girl a Speedo suit, and take her to gymnastics class, if she will continue to dream.
Michael Phelps
We've got a lot going on, but so does everybody. It's a busy time. I always loved the beginning of school. I loved new school supplies, new clothes, new friends, new boys to talk about. My kids are telling me nothing. They come home from their first 2 days with NO information whatsoever. The conversations go like this:
me: How was the day?
them: good.
me: Tell me one good thing that happened today!
them: don't remember.
Aidan: I got 3 stars and got a treat!
me: GREAT! What for?
Aidan: because I'm great at school, mama.
I don't know if he helped out, answered a question, stood on his head. He gives me nothing to work with.
So, since my children don't help me out creatively here...I've got some random stuff in my head that I have to get out.
Michael Phelps is the fastest swimmer. Ever. But you know that.
But why does he wear his swimsuit so low? It made me nervous during the 4x100 relay and he was all excited. Pretty sure he doesn't get a medal for exposure.
I wish, one time, a swimmer would get up there with body hair. Like, "oops! Forgot my razor!" That'd be awesome.
A gymnastic team that is more than okay with a bronze medal is more than okay with me. I love those US guys. They were a great display of teamwork, encouragement and pride (the good kind).
Seeing all the views of China and Beijing makes me want to go there.
The synchronized diving last night? That's so cool. But wouldn't it be funny if the guys got in a fight before the event, and one dude decides to do a big can opener off the platform?
I watched white water kayaking today. The white water looks amazing. But being strapped into that kayak, where you look like you have no lower body, scares me to death. Makes my toes claustrophobic.
The story about the Italian girl swimmer who is dating the French girl swimmer's ex-boyfriend? There's some Olympic drama for ya. After the dramatic clip about all that, French girl could have dog paddled through the pool in the wrong lane and everyone would still have cheered for her. Including me.
Enough of the Olympics...
I've started using a new makeup. I LOVE it. It's that Bare Minerals stuff, and I'm just addicted. I don't know if it's the actual powders I like, or is it the big fluffy brush? That's pretty fun, floofing that thing all over my face. I've been really timid with the Warmth/Bronzer stuff. I'm so afraid of overdoing it and looking like Tara Reid.
Molly is crawling all over me wanting to play on the computer. I guess I'd better give it up for now. Women's gymnastics and 2 medal races for Phelps tonight. I bought green peanuts to boil just for the occasion (if anyone wants to watch with us...you're welcome to, but the peanuts are MINE.)
Monday, August 11, 2008
And off they go...
This morning, Molly woke up in our bed (nobody remembers how she got there) saying, "First Day Of School, First Day Of School!" in her best "Nemo" voice. They got dressed without complaint (I let Molly choose between 2 outfits, normally she hates this one, but she doesn't hate it as bad as the other one!), ate breakfasts of dry FrootLoops or oatmeal and jumped in the truck with Dad. Before they left, this is the pose they gave me.
I don't know if Molly is going to K3, or hip hop class. Check out that stance. There are no words for Aidan.
The goodbye kiss that brought tears to Paisley's eyes...seriously, it hurt!
This was at a birthday party this weekend. I thought it was sweet, and very fitting of their relationship. I don't even want to think about how Molly will respond next year when he's at big school. He'll be unfazed, but the girls and I will be in pieces. We love our Aidan. He came home from school today telling me that he just loves going to school. I'm so glad. He is so friendly, and speaks to all the other kids, regardless of whether they speak in return. He was the class clown last year and cracked his teacher up. I'm not sure if the new teacher this year will feel the same, but I hope he endears himself to her anyway!
As for Paiz and me, the homeys, we watched the Olympics, folded towels, picked up toys, snacked, and got reaquainted. She learned to click her tongue, and walk up the stairs on her feet, not her knees! (don't worry Mama, she held onto the rails tightly!)
My heart is full...these kids are awesome.
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Can I take a 16 day hiatus?
The Olympics are a big deal around here. I've always been completely fascinated and awed by Olympic sports. I love geography and world trivia, so I love the ceremony, with Bob Costas delivering interesting facts about countries I have never heard of. Last night, I enjoyed learning about nations such as Tuvalu, an 8 square mile island in the Pacific.
I was blown away by the lighting of the cauldron. I hope nobody ever tops that.
My favorite thing about the Olympics is the stories. I have cried all day thinking about the 9 year old boy who saved himself and 2 friends from the rubble during the recent earthquake in China. Seeing him revered as a hero, walking next to Yao Ming, was a major tearjerker.
**I've been trying to compose this post for several minutes now. Usually words are not a problem. I love the Olympics. I love what it stands for, and the honor a medal brings to a nation. I'm not sure I can put into words how much fun watching the competition is for me and my family.
So I'll just say this, as I get ready to watch Dara Torres swim...
I was really struck last night during the parade of nations at the USA athletes. Our country is so young, and so diverse. I felt very blessed to be part of a country composed of so many colors and cultures. Other countries are their own culture, and that's wonderful. They shape what is wonderful about the world. But America is a perfect blend of all that's good about this planet Earth that we live on.
And Jesus died for every person alive. EVERY SINGLE ONE. Inside we all have the same need for love, forgiveness, peace and joy, and He died so we can all have it. I was so overwhelmed last night, watching the parade in a stadium of 91000, plus the athletes and performers. God loves every single one of them, and blessed them with amazing talent. He is the same God that cares about where my kids are going to school. I just don't know that I'll ever get over it. Inside we are all the same, and we all need Jesus.
He's better than a gold.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Like I need one more distraction...
I've wondered how people knew who was visiting their blogs...so I asked my friend Nicki, and she told me to install Sitemeter.
Now there's pressure.
I check the meter after an hour...12 hits. 3 hours, over 30 hits. By tonight, over 50. 4 of them were from other countries! I don't know if some guy in El Salvador cares about my kids or my opinions, but he's welcome here anyway. I know all of you have one and are so over it, but I'm really having to deal now.
Knowing some of you come by and see me every day, I feel like I must write all the time. It's like always having sweet tea in the fridge, just in case someone comes by.
Maybe I'm freaking out because I can go DAYS with no emails, phone calls, texts or facebook messages. So to find out 50 people have been to the blog...I have to step it up.
I'm going to have to start carrying a notepad, so I won't forget the funny stuff I can report on.
Or not.
I'm going to be over this by tomorrow, and you'll still have to wait till Michael goes out of town again to get new information.
Speaking of...he just called...will be home momentarily...and I have to say that if he calls me again with the windows down, I may just hang up the phone. I hate that sound.
Goodnight folks...and you in El Salvador, Buenos noches.
Aidan runs from the camera...
Those hands probably aren't clean...notice the chalk on the ground.
Molly only wears pants in public. We're working with her. She's in a 12 step pants program, which is weird, because it only takes 2 steps to put your pants on.
Just because...
This picture may not look like much...until you see that grin sticking out from under the sheet. I think she looks a bit like the emperor on Return of the Jedi.
"Sisters, sisters, there were never such devoted sisters...."
That grin will get her anything. And she knows it.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
So Umpressed
I finished my quick once-over of an outfit I'm considering for the girls and strolled into the living room, with him yelling, "This is so awesome!"
Musician John Legend was sitting at a piano singing a great little song about singing a song. I said, "Oh! That's John Legend. He's really talented! Watch him play piano, Aidan." and I was about to start waxing eloquent about the value of practice. Aidan said "No, Mama! Not him, look! It's Mr. Hoots!!" Mr. Hoots is the gravelly-voiced, saxophone playing, jazz singing owl on Sesame Street.
And I thought he was impressed by the HUMAN. Silly me.
Monday, August 4, 2008
Read my mind
Right now, my son Aidan is hanging his build-a-bear Teddy, dressed in a Spiderman suit, by a jump rope hanging from the top of our staircase. He says he's building a web. Pretty cool, if you ask me.
Molly is, right now, being quite bossy and telling Aidan he has to come play in her room. It's taken her so long to stand up to him, I'm not going to correct the bossiness. Pick your battles, that's what I say.
Paisley is asleep, after a long, arduous attempt at getting her there.
You see why I don't want to give a daily report? It's not an exciting life. Fun, fulfilling, hilarious at times, but hardly Pulitzer worthy.
So...moving away from the antics of my offspring...
I went to Northpark mall last week. The kids were with Maddie, and I was out browsing and using gift card money that I should have saved for fall clothes.
As I was walking through the upper level, I had the thought, "Gosh, I haven't been in Victoria's Secret in years!" So I turned right and found myself among overpriced lingerie and really not cute sleepwear. Sorry for you fans, but I refuse to wear the word Pink on my butt. Or any word, for that matter. It brings back memories of a church camp I attended at Baylor University. One girl, bless her, bought a pair of Soffe shorts from the campus store that said Baylor on the rear end. She would wear them and guys would walk behind her and chant, "Bay!" "Lor!" with each step. I made my decision to swear off writing on the posterior.
Anyhoo...back to VS. It was morning, so the store was mostly empty, except for this girl...and her boyfriend. Now, I've said before, if you don't want to read my opinions on stuff, you don't have to, but I'd advise you to stop here.
This little couple looked about 18. Great looking almost-adults. Men in VS make me nervous anyway, but I always hope that they're just checking out the sleepshirts or fragrances. No. This cute chica was looking at bras, and handing the ones she liked to her boyfriend. I noticed this, it made me a little uncomfortable, but as the day went on, I found myself getting frustrated. Not at them, goodness, I don't know them!
I was frustrated because of the obvious nonchalance toward intimacy they showed just by being in there, and even more so by shopping for her underwear together. I mean, why don't they just wear a sign that tells everyone "Hey! We've seen each other in our skivvies, and we're here to spread the word!" (I love the word skivvies...we should use it more often).
As a parent, you know the message this sends to everyone. We're doing what we want, and don't care if you know. And even if they aren't...men, guys, boys, are created to be visual creatures. This is not new information. If you hand a guy a bra on the rack in VS, he's going to picture a girl in it. Not to mention the posters on the wall in the store are enough to overstimulate any healthy, red-blooded male.
This is not a post on True Love Waits (although it does, and should, I think.) I am overwhelmed with the permissiveness we allow ourselves and especially our teenagers. I read somewhere a comment made by someone that said, "abstinence doesn't work. kids will do it anyway. prevention is the only solution." Why is this? Why do we think they'll do it anyway? Maybe if we spent the time with our kids that they need so desperately, and not just give them the things they want, they wouldn't go looking for their emotional needs to be met outside the home.
I hope this was read knowing the intention with which I wrote it. I don't mean to preach, but I feel so strongly about the lack of morals in the world where my children will grow up. I feel as a parent like it's my job not only to teach them what God says is right and wrong, but to speak up about our society from a Christian's standpoint. In other words, call a spade a spade.
I daily struggle with sin in my life, and have to claim the line in the song we sang at church yesterday, "But by the power of Christ, I stand." I am not a loveless old church lady who points a finger at people who sin with 3 fingers pointing back at her. I am just a parent who cares deeply about her kids, a wife who knows the value of doing it God's way, and a child of God who knows how far his grace can reach.
I waited. God has blessed. But I still have regrets. I pray that couple in the store doesn't have regrets one day. God's plan is always best. His forgiveness is all-encompassing. His grace is sufficient. His mercy is everlasting. His love is perfect.
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
I made signs tonight, "We", "Miss", "Dad". I tried to get the kids to hold them up so I could take a pic for Michael, and this is the best I could get.
Paiz didn't quite understand. When I said, "hold it in front of you," I guess that was interpreted 3 different ways.
This cracked me up. Paisley was playing with the dollhouse. She went around to the back and peeked in the window. We all got so tickled at her. I hope there's nobody getting dressed in there!
So for the dog days of summer, we're doing pretty well. We always have so much to be thankful for. Air conditioning, cold water, an icemaker, cool summer clothes, stuff to do inside. No matter what the time of year, we're going to be thankful.
And at 9 in the morning, when Michael gets home, the gratitude will be even greater!
Dog days
So many words for our lovely Mississippi weather these days.
Michael, on the other hand, is in Oregon again, enjoying highs of 85 and a nice breeze. He's flying red-eye tonight and will be home in the morning. Last week was New Jersey, the weekend was Tennessee (purely fun, rafting the Ocoee), this week Oregon and next week Jersey again. I love that he's getting to take charge of projects and gets to travel. I'm so proud of what he can do. One of the guys that rafted with him this weekend said that he asked Michael how the water at this plant on the Ocoee can turn into electricity, and Michael explained it very simply and clearly. He's pretty smart like that.
I, apparently, am not quite that smart. I can't figure out what to do around here with the kids when it's too hot to go outside. We've played cards, made collages, painted, colored, played many, many games and watched many, many dvds. This weekend, we stayed with my mom, since dad was gone to the Ocoee too. The kids had a great time. They got some skates, and have skated from one end of the house to the other. It's pretty funny to hear a thump, then "I'm Okay!!!"
I didn't get much sleep this weekend, Paisley ran fever every night. By Sunday, I was a zombie. My dad told me at church that our sweet friend Madelaine was coming over Monday and Tuesday morning to watch the kids so I could get a break. I didn't realize how much I needed that. Or maybe I just really needed someone to notice that I needed it. That meant more than the break itself. So I cried and cried and thanked them for thinking of me.
Madelaine got here yesterday morning and stayed till after lunch. I went and got school supplies, ran an errand for my dad, and went to Belk. I had some gift credit, so I bought a nightgown. Now, I'm the world's cheapest person, and hardly ever buy anything that I really don't need, so this was a splurge. But it was so cute, and marked down to $17 from $58, that I just couldn't resist. Today, I went to Renaissance and got a planner from B&N, then walked around and window shopped. I went in Francesca's, and decided that I really need to do some Pampered Chef soon, because those clothes had my name on them! The prices are great, and the jewelry is beautiful! Definitely going back there.
Okay, I'm boring myself with this recap of my life, so here are some pictures that are much more entertaining!
More Maddie photography. I wish Paiz would let go of that pacifier. She's so cute without it.
She is the best babysitter EVER. My kids rooms were clean when I got home. The dishes were done. How she manages my house and kids better than I do...I don't know. But she's awesome. She has such a precious heart for Jesus, and is doing life right. I'm so proud to know her, and I'm glad she's made herself at home with us.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Miss Independent...Paisley!
In actuality, we've had little photo opportunities lately. We've been having fun, but it's so hot, the thought of holding the camera outside makes me sweat. I hate to sweat, unless I know some of this postpartum baby fat is leaving my body. (it's been 14 months, I'm out of excuses.) But anyway...
Here's a quick video I took of Paiz last week on the slide. She made it up, then down, all by her little blond self. As of this week, she can get on top of the table by herself, but there will be no video of that, lest she think it's okay!
Here is another of Paiz from the 4th of July. She went down the slip and slide by herself, only to get taken out by G, my dad.
So there you have it, my little girl showing off. She is proving to be much more of a handful than Aidan and Molly were. Each kid has brought different challenges in parenting to the table, but so far, Paisley is the most exhausting!
Monday, July 21, 2008
Travelin' man
Anyway, I miss him. The kids tried to wait up, but eyelids are heavy things after 10 pm.
It's so hot outside, I'm thinking about purchasing 2 supersoakers, and letting Aidan and Molly have at me in the yard. I'll just stand there and soak.
Molly's ears are getting better. She needed an oral antibiotic, which I knew when I called 2 weeks ago, but they didn't believe me.
Turns out I had strep. I think it's gone now. A shot and a z-pack...best drugs on earth.
Speaking of medicine...my dad thinks Vicks VapoRub can cure anything. He says "vicksalve", one word. When I was a kid, I'd go to him with a stomach ache and he'd say, "just put a little vicksalve on it."
I think he just likes the smell. Maybe Yankee could make a Vicks candle. That would rock my dad's world. He'd light it at work, and the offices would be mentholated.
Last time Michael had a trip to Oregon, he bought me a cool tshirt in Seattle. It's from the airport, but really, where is he going to shop on a layover? Anyway...I'm thinking a one day trip to Newark, then a long night at the ATL won't result in a present this time.
I made a cheap Tony's frozen pizza tonight. Yes, I know I sell Pampered Chef and can do better, I just don't want to. Anyway, I handed Aidan a piece and he said, "I don't want pizza. I don't like the potato sauce." I got so tickled and he was just standing there with those huge brown eyes, saying, "what, mama? what'd I say?" Tomato, potato, let's call the whole thing off.
Molly is into bathroom humor. Every joke has either a body part or function. I would spend a lot of time correcting this, but I know it's a phase, so I'm picking my battles. I'm attacking the You Cannot Wear That In Public battle presently. So if you see her and she says "poop" at any time, I'm sorry. We don't sit around talking about it. She's 3, and it will pass. Hopefully.
Paisley wants to be big. That's all there is to it. She is into everything, and either breaks it, or hurts herself. She has worn more bruises the past 2 weeks. I still haven't gotten her picture made, ever. She always looks like she just took out 3 other kids in the nursery. We're working on words. So far, everything is "isssss". Don't ask me what it means, I have no idea.
I have a great vid of her climbing the ladder and sliding by herself. I'll post it when I'm motivated enough to download.
Michael should be in the air and on his way to me. So I'm going to fall asleep on the couch and pray that when he walks in tonight, I won't have drool running down my face.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Ain't no cure for the summertime flu...
My turn. I took Molly to the doc today for a ruptured eardrum, and was feeling so bad, they did a strep test. It was negative, so the doctor told me, "looks like a case of the summer flu."
Flu in the summer? Why?
I'm off to take medicine that will put me out for 12 hours. Hope I am better tomorrow, I have fun things to do!
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Perfect Post Pressure
I've been rolling thoughts around in my haphazardly organized mind, and I think I've had about 20 different perspectives to write from this time around. I put pressure on myself to make this one really spectacular, with the perfect combination of humor, life changing anecdotes, tales of my kids' antics, and spiritual insight. However, that's not where I am right now. Recently, I've been seeing the beauty of imperfection. That messed up part of us that just can't get it together. For me, that's where God comes in and makes himself so real.
When God steps into my faults and messiness, I become so aware of the beauty of the imperfection. It becomes a beautiful thing to not be just right, because God makes up the difference. As I strive to become "lesser" (John 3:30), then the imperfections become lesser too, and the perfection of Jesus in me becomes greater, therefore making me more complete. I picture it in my head as a pie chart, with two colors, one for the ugly messed up part of me, and one for the beauty of Christ. In every circumstance, how I respond, how I think, how I speak and act, how I treat people, my prayer is that the beauty of Christ take up most of the pie, and eventually the ugliness of my faults is a just a tiny sliver.
I have been working on the appearance of the blog, as you can tell. I love the grid with the most precious faces I've ever seen. But I can't stand the font. Blogger doesn't give a lot of options here, I have to learn how to do something different there. But the whole point of the upgrade is this: I realized that although "Flirting with Chaos" is appropriate for our life with the kids we have, it has a negative connotation. It was intended to be humorous, but I would never want anyone to mistake my attitude toward my family as being stressed, or frustrated, or less than completely happy.
Michael and I have talked a lot about making the most out of life. To quote the musical we did in junior high, we want to "Live It to the Max!" We only get one shot at life here on earth. I want mine to be lived in the best possible way. There are so many ways to look at this idea. I want to be adventurous. I want to be creative. I want to be passionate. I want to be silly. I want to laugh really hard. I want to be more spontaneous (which is hard for me, but I'm working on it.) I want to love people. This is probably where I am the most right now. I want to treat others in a way that there is no question that Jesus lives in me. I won't get it right sometimes, or even most of the time. But that's where the Lord comes in and fills in the rough spots of my imperfection and my identity in Christ becomes more important than even my relationships with people.
I think God wants us to embrace the life He has for us. He created so many wonderful things. He made wonderful people, everyone different and special. He made music. I wouldn't want to live in a world without music. He made everything to worship him. I desire with all of my heart to worship him without inhibitions. To worship him through my life, my words, my actions.
This past Sunday night, my sweet friend Katie Magee was baptized. She is a precious girl who I love to be around. After church, someone brought me her camera and said she left it in the baptistry and could I take it to her. The camera is pink, and Molly has been chomping at the bit to use it. We have been talking a lot about Katie's baptism, and what it means to come to know Christ and be baptized to show everyone that Jesus is in your heart. So yesterday, Molly comes to me and says, "Mama, how can we take Katie her camera if she's in heaven?" I told her Katie was at home, not in heaven. She said, "but she got baptized, and now she's in heaven, right?" That started a wonderful conversation about the symbolism of baptism and what it means to have Jesus in your heart. I told Molly that I asked Jesus in my heart when I was 6, but I'm still here. I told her when I die, a long time from now, I would go to heaven. Molly teared up and told me, "I'm gonna miss you when you die, mama!" After a good cry and a long hug, I explained that I wasn't going anywhere today. That hopefully I would be here with her until I am really old. Then I explained that if Jesus is in her heart, she'll see me when she gets there too. This made my sweet girl really happy. We talked about singing with Jesus forever.
Then she asked me where people go when they don't know Jesus. Now, I've known these questions were coming, but Molly is three. I was a little caught off guard. But I was honest, and I told her about hell. I told her hell was a sad place, because there was nothing good there. That it was a place completely without God or his love. This made her get really quiet for a minute, then she said, "tell me more about hell, mama". I explained that we have a choice, to know Jesus and ask him to forgive us of our sin and come live in our hearts and be in charge of our life, or not. I told her that in my life, following Jesus meant joy, peace, comfort, excitement. I told her that people without Jesus didn't have those things all the time, like we do.
Molly's conversation was an incredibly humbling experience for me. She's three, and now she knows that life with Jesus is better than life without him. I know she'll have hard times. We all do. But to have a chance to maybe instill a little bit of the faith that gets me through the valleys makes me feel so honored and proud. I'm so glad God made that little girl. I pray she will see that the faith and God given strength that gets me through stuff is available to her all the time.
For a 100th post, this was a doozy, huh? Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I'm thankful for the chance to get to express what God is doing in my heart. I pray that He's being awesome in yours. Even as I wind this up, there are so many wonderful things going on in my life that I could write about. But this post is long, and those things are all outside circumstances. So, I'll stick with the heart stuff, and say good night.
Thursday, July 10, 2008
I said, You said, and one more memory...
He said, "I, Michael, promise to love you Anne, as Christ loved the church. To love you with a sacrificial love that seeks your good above all else in order that you may be presented to Christ "radiant, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless."
I said, "I, Anne, promise to love you Michael. To live "in submission as unto the Lord." To seek to uplift you in all that I do so I may show the world the peace, unity and Christ-like love that God would have seen in our family and testify to the world that God is in control."
Horton says, "I meant what I said, I said what I meant. An Elephant's faithful, one hundred percent!" -Horton Hatches the Egg, Dr. Seuss.
My next post is my hundredth. I'm working on it in my head...stay tuned.
***I can't believe I forgot this last night! My sweet friend Jennifer sent me a message on facebook reminding me about one of the funniest parts of our wedding day!
In 4 of the 9 bridesmaids' bouquets, a couple of stargazers had not opened, and there was just a white unopened bud sticking up. Jenni, my cousin and one of the funniest people I know, started tapping on hers and saying, "testing, testing...1,2,3" It really looked like a weird microphone in a flower bouquet. So Jenni, Sarah (her sister, just as funny), Lucy (my jr. bridesmaid, just as funny), and Jennifer (my matron of honor...funny as well) all started talking into their flowers. We all got so tickled. The photographer, when lining the girls up for a picture, said to Jenni, "you there, lower your microphone just a bit," and we all fell out. Oh, that was a good time. Thanks Jennifer for reminding me of that.
If you were there, and a few of you that read this were...comment with something you remember. Going back over that day has been so much fun! Thanks!
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
I remember...
I remember singing with my friends in the bride's room. I wasn't nervous AT ALL. I just wanted to marry Michael.
I remember throwing the top layer of my wedding dress over my head and pretending to be a ghost and getting lipstick on my dress.
I remember the silly poem my cousins wrote for me. All inside jokes, and very, very funny. Thank you Clyde.
I remember my brother streaking through the house after his shower that morning. He actually wasn't streaking, he was dancing, and his towel fell off. Mom and I were in tears from laughing.
I remember wondering if it should be weird that my high school boyfriend was a groomsman. It wasn't.
I remember waiting with my dad after the bridesmaids had gone in. We had so much fun. I think the photographer wanted sweet and sentimental. We didn't give it to him. Dad had a wedding to perform, he couldn't get all gushy.
I remember my dad ushering people in, and when he was reprimanded for doing that (since he was the father of the bride) he said, "I can do what I want! Are you paying for this??"
I remember walking down the aisle. I remember Michael's face. That's why I had the ushers tell everybody to stay seated when I entered. I wanted to see his face. He grinned at me, and nothing else in the world mattered at that point.
I remember the flowers not being what I ordered. I was upset, briefly, until dad hung the bridesmaid dress hanger around his neck and stood on the stage and showed me that the red would not clash with the dark pink. It really looked great.
I remember the indescribable feeling of hearing almost every person I know and love singing my favorite hymn, "Worthy of Worship", and being shaken to the core with emotion.
I remember my little brother standing up there trying not to cry. I'm glad he got to stand on my side. If I could have had a best man, he'd have been it.
I remember Michael at the reception stopping to talk with EVERY person he saw. I did the, "hey! so glad you came! Thanks!" But Michael shook hands and said, "how's the job going?" He worked the crowd slowly, but he let everyone know how glad he was they were there.
I remember Michael being afraid to lift my dress above my calf. I think he was just uncertain about all those layers of tulle. I hiked it up, and showed him the garter. Then he got the idea.
I remember my sweet 11 year old cousin catching the bouquet. She was so beautiful and grown up in her red dress.
I remember the rose petals being tossed at us as we ran to Michael's mustang.
I remember the happy sadness as we drove off, and wondering if I truly showed my parents how grateful I was for such an awesome, worshipful, fun, delightful, beautiful day.
I remember being alone with Michael for the first time in the car and the peace that came over me that I had made the best decision in my life, after following Christ.
So many other memories. But this post would be longer than it already is. I love my husband. He is my best friend. If you've read other posts you know how I feel about him, so I won't repeat myself.
That day was great. Our life since then has been greater. I'm excited about what God's going to do in the next 50 years!
I had to doctor the pics a bit. We don't have a scanner, so Michael took pictures of my pictures. They're not great, but it gives you the idea. There are not many things I'd have changed about that day. I'd have had our pictures taken before the ceremony. I'd have shortened the ceremony, maybe. I liked it long, but my bridesmaids didn't have on isotoner slippers like I did! I'd have had a funkier cake. I didn't care about the cake. It was pretty, but I would have had something more "me". We certainly would have picked a different honeymoon destination. But all those things are so small...now they're just memories. Michael and I have learned and loved and lived and are having a wonderful time.
Ecclesiastes 4:9. Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.